An Excellent Example of How to Ask a Woman Out on a Date

You've probably seen the movie Office Space. If you haven't, you should.

Did you see the scene where the guy asked the waitress (played by Jennifer Aniston) out to lunch? This is an EXCELLENT example to learn from. Go watch that scene and see why it is a good example. If you can't tell why, watch it until you can.

Basically, the guy asks the waitress what she's doing for lunch. She mistakenly thinks he's asking about lunch specials, points to a sign and walks away. Does this stop the guy? No. He calmly walks over to her and lets her know that he was asking what SHE was doing for lunch.

Then comes the really good part. After she says she doesn't think she's supposed to just walk out and go to lunch with some guy, our hero is still unflustered. He says he's going next door and he's going to get a table. If she shows up, fine. If not...that's fine too.

What did this communicate? He communicated that:

1. He was confident and relaxed. He didn't get rattled at all during the entire exchange.
2. Lunch wasn't a big deal. Whether she showed up or not he was going to go have lunch and enjoy himself.

Did he want her to show up? Sure. But her presence wasn't going to make or break him. It wasn't that big of a deal to him. His having a good time was NOT dependent on whether the woman was there or not. He avoided appearing needy or desperate.

Too often guys make a big deal out of things and appear needy. When you ask a woman out, do it in such a way that suggests you were going to go regardless of whether she came along, but she's welcome to if she so chooses.

Things like "I'm going to my favorite restaurant Friday and if you want to come along you're welcome to" says something a lot different (and a lot less desperate) than "Can I take you to dinner Friday night?"

Think about that and look for other GOOD examples of encounters between men and women on screen. They're not everywhere, but they ARE there.

I'm having a friend of mine watch that scene from Office Space to see if he can identify why it's a good encounter and my guess is I'll have to explain it to him even though it's right in front of his face. He simply hasn't learned WHAT to look for yet.

Learn WHAT you need to look for and then look for it. Once you have an understanding of what a good encounter is you'll be able to see more examples of them all around you.

I'd say good luck here, but a Don Juan doesn't depend on luck.

What Should You Do When a Woman Is "Too Busy" for You?

Girls who are “too busy” to see you are just that. They are too busy to see “YOU”. Why I say this to you should be obvious:

Do you think for one second that if you were some famous celebrity, athlete, or actor that she liked, that she'd still be too busy to get with you?

I think not.

The reality of it all is that women put guys into categories. When they think of certain guys, the categorize them this way:

1. Guys that I'll get with whenever I find the time to.
2. Guys that I'll NEVER really get with, but I'm either too non-confrontational or inconsiderate to ever tell them that — so I'll keep them around just to use them as tools to stroke my own ego.
3. Or…guys that I'll DROP EVERYTHING to get with — even if it means missing partying with my girls, calling in sick for work, or even if it means that I have to share him with other girls!

Now that you're privy to this Intel, the best thing for you to do as a man who is interested in ANY girl, is to do a quick assessment of your situation to determine which category of guy you are to her. If you're still unsure which category you fit in, here's a hint:

If she's put you in any category other than category 3 — then you'd better lock, load, and mobilize your dating/relationship forces towards another more eligible, more agreeable, more available, and more enthusiastic chick.

There's nothing like getting with a girl who WANTS to get with you. Accept NOTHING less. And until you find it…you should “soldier on”.

Out of either confusion or unspoken desperation, some guys may be reluctant to eject from these types of situations. Some may say to themselves:

What if I'm being too hasty? What if I'm not giving her enough time to really get to know me? What if she's one of those girls that just has to "grow" to like me?

Well, to those guys, I'd like to say, “I agree”. Sometimes a girl can grow to like you, but most of the time, how a girl initially responds to you represents her most honest appraisal of you. So the thing is...if you're the recipient of a low level of interest and enthusiasm from a girl that you want, you should probably ask yourself a few questions:

1. Is this REALLY the way I want to start off a possible date/relationship type of situation with a girl?
2. Would I rather have a girl who had to "grow" to like me as opposed to one who had an obvious and measurable degree of attraction for me from the beginning?

Your answers to these questions will help you decide what's right for you. I'm sure that nearly every guy on earth who has reached adulthood has had some girl really, really "into him" before. Now, that chick may or may not have been a girl that he wanted, but regardless of that, he still knows what it feels like from experience to have a certain degree of what I call "SWEATLESS VICTORY" with a woman.

Sweatless Victory is what you experience when you meet a woman that is clearly more eligible, more agreeable, more available, and more enthusiastic about you than the average, lackluster chick. Sweatless Victory is what you tend to get when you're with a woman that WANTS to get with you.

Women who have a strong attraction for you in the beginning are usually more consistent in their good behavior towards you, more accessible to you when you want them to be, and play fewer head games with you overall.

Now, this is not to say that there aren't girls out there that you don't have to invest a little time into seeing where their heads are. Some girls are worth this effort. However, there's a difference between investing time into seeing where a girl's head is at as opposed to wasting time trying to get her head to where you want it to be.

This is always an individual choice for every man. BUT — a good way to tell when you've crossed the line from investing time over into wasting time is when you find yourself doing things to get a girl that makes you start thinking less of yourself for doing it. Whenever the choice is between you getting a girl or keeping your self-respect — then keeping your self-respect will always serve you better in the long run.

Then, there are still other guys who will say this to themselves:

What about girls who really are too busy for me? What about girls who really do live extremely busy lives? Shouldn't I give them extra-consideration before I just write them off?

Well, if you're one of those guys, to you I would say this on the subject of busy women:

You may say to yourself that this woman or that woman is just naturally really, really "busy", and this may be true. Nevertheless, there'll come a point when you have to ask yourself:

Am "I" getting the kind of time, the quality of interactions with this girl that "I" want?

You see, you have to make sure that your needs and wants are being reciprocated by any woman with whom you associate. This remains a true statement throughout every stage of the “getting to know you” process. Never forget that in the end it doesn't really matter whether or not it's another "guy" taking up her time or if it's her other legit priorities taking up her time. If you are not getting the kind of time you want with a girl — you lose. But make no mistake: You'll lose not because you're a "loser", but because you would have knowingly signed up for less than what you want.

Again, I stand firm on my earlier assessment that women who are really interested in you will find the time to get with you — and they'll make that happen with very little effort exerted on your part.

So keep girls who are “too busy” for you in your peripheral vision, and only stop, turn, and look back in their direction when they show you by their consistent actions that they have chosen to "un-busy" themselves — for YOU.

The Number One Secret Behind the Alpha Male's Body Language

Watch a man with high status — Brad Pitt, George Clooney, or the CEO where you work — and you'll notice that he moves differently than the rest of us. He gives off vibes that he is hot stuff, and because of that, women get soaking wet over him.

You, too, can create that aura that makes you attractive to women.

Have you ever noticed the way your friends look when they're all nervous? They're looking down at the ground with their arms crossed, fidgeting, with their voices cracking and their eyes bugged out.

And when you give off that kind of body language yourself, women don't want to be around you.

Now, think about successful guys. They've got girls all over them and some great body language going on.

So, what's the number one secret between those high status guys and the low status guys? You've probably guessed it... the alpha males are relaxed and in control when it comes to social situations.

Make no mistake about it... relaxation is the most important mental state for you to be in.

With that in mind, here are some pointers for you to develop the mindset and body language of an alpha male (and by the way, if you think they're easy, you're right... you can make these changes as early as tonight and have even the hottest girls clamoring for your attention):

1) Don't allow yourself to feel worried. Just let your worries go, since you can't solve any problem by worrying. So suck it up, and quit thinking about what might go wrong. Just live life.

Now, I know what I just said is easier said than done (to use an old — but relevant in this case — cliche). You've spent your whole life up until now dwelling on thoughts that make you feel worried.

But what is this emotion we call "worry"? When you think about it, it's simply the fear of what might happen in the future. Essentially you're punishing yourself by feeling upset before anything bad has happened. It makes no logical sense to worry!

So the solution is to avoid contemplating your worrisome thoughts anymore. Identify them for what they are... toxic to your emotional state, and... let them go.

Simply not dwelling on negative outcomes that make you feel upset will reduce 90% of your worries.

2) A second strategy to relax is to breathe through your abdomen rather than your chest.

When you breathe, imagine that you're bringing air down to your stomach. Feel your belly rise and fall as you breathe.

3) Avoid nonverbal behaviors that are the opposite of relaxation:

• Raising your shoulders.
• Wrinkling your forehead.
• Fidgeting with your hands and/or legs.
• Tightening your facial muscles.

4) Relax all your muscles and slow down all of your movements a notch.

Alpha males generally move unhurriedly, as if they are in control of time itself. Beta males are nervous and make jerky movements. Imagine you are standing and walking through a swimming pool, where your movements are slow and fluid.

5) Relax your eyes and eyelids.

Beta males hold their eyelids wide open because they are so nervous. Their eyes dart all around. Instead let your eyelids rest. Look straight ahead. Only give things your attention if they interest you. While you're out and about, do the affirmation to yourself,"I am sexual, I am relaxed, and I am in control."

6) If someone wants your attention, move your head slowly.

A trait common to many beta males is being so eager to please that when someone calls their name, you see them spin their heads toward the person unnaturally fast.

7 Body Language Secrets That Attract Women

What is the biggest “key” factor there is when it comes to approaching and attracting beautiful women? Is it looks? Nope. Is it income? No. Is it age? Not even close. The biggest factor there is without a doubt is communication.

It gets a lot crazier then that, however. Communication of course is how we talk to other people, right? But what would you say if I told you that 90% of our day-to-day communication is done in a way where you don't have to speak at all? That's right. The majority of what we communicate doesn't even come from our mouths!

This 90% of communication is called body language. Even when we aren't talking, we are always sending off these ‘signals' that other people, women especially, pick up subconsciously. For example, as I am writing this in a coffee shop the waitress can tell I am head-first in my laptop working on something, because of that she knows to keep me refilled and to not disturb me much.

If you see someone walking with their hands in their pockets and their head down, will you be more likely to approach this person? Or would you be more likely to approach a person with their head up and shoulders thrown back? This is my point exactly.

The greatest thing about modifying your body language is that the results are almost instant. From the moment you start using them you start feeling better about yourself and people will be more likely to approach you.

The other great thing about body language is the changes are small and subtle, but they can be tricky to use all the time but through effort and practice you WILL become a natural.

Let's talk about the 7 body language secrets that I personally use to help me attract women:

1. Movement – Nervous guys are always fidgety and jerky. Confident men who are successful with women make very controlled movements. They walk slowly and only make controlled movements. You will never see a confident man with restless leg syndrome or fidgeting with his fingers. By slowing down your movement you are presenting to the rest of the world a more “comfortable” version of yourself and it makes you that much more approach-friendly.
2. Lean Back and Relax – When you are sitting up or in any sort of position that isn't standing up, lay back and relax. Let your arms hang down at your sides, and make yourself as comfortable as you possibly can. Shy guys have a tendency of “shielding” themselves from other people by sitting forward with their arms folded. Don't do this as it makes you look closed off. Relax!
3. Be Spacious – In any situation, always take up as much space as possible. If you're sitting in a lobby, sort of lean back and kick your legs out. This is a “territorial” thing that all people notice subconsciously. If people see you taking up this space they will automatically assume you to be the alpha in the room and that you are the one who is the most laid back and fun!
4. Walking Posture - When you are walking it's very important to have great posture. If you walk with your head down with your hands in your pocket you will look completely unapproachable. Walk with your back straight, with your head tilted up just a bit. Stick your chest out and bring your shoulders back. This shows women what they are most attracted too, confidence. Take a look at any millionaire, rock star, or celebrity. They always walk this way and it's because they are confident with themselves.
5. Open Yourself – When you are approaching women stand or sit with your palms slightly exposed with your arms at your sides and with your legs shoulder width apart (or out in front of you if you are sitting). Don't ever cross your arms or your legs as this is a signal for being “closed” off.
6. Be Calm and Indifferent – You never want to show too much emotion at any given time, this makes you seem as if you aren't in control of your life or your situation.
7. Tonality – While this is technically “speaking” it's more body language then anything else. If you talk fast, slow down! People who talk fast are usually left in the dust because they either A) Talk too fast for people to comprehend or B) Are embarrassing to talk to. Talking slower allows you to be more in control of what you say, it also stops you from making embarrassing mistakes such as stuttering which is a MASSIVE sign of being nervous!

If you can master each one of those body language principles then you will be in a completely different league with women then anyone you know! Another quick-tip to help you master these tips is to associate a color with body language. For example, every time you see something red, check over your body language and see if you are displaying confident and open body language.

How to Kiss a Girl and Never Get Rejected

You're about to learn, hands down, the best way to successfully get a girl to kiss you without fear of rejection. In the advanced version of this technique, you can even get the girl you're talking to to lean in to kiss you!

So if you've ever been afraid of getting rejected going for a kiss OR you've gotten "the cheek" you know why having a rock-solid technique to moving in for the kiss is 100% crucial.

Going in for the kiss is probably the worst place to face rejection in an interaction with a girl because:

1. You've invested a lot of TIME by this point in the interaction, and there simply isn't enough time in your night to get this far and then hit a brick wall and have to move on.
2. Screwing up this part of the interaction can ruin all chances of moving on from here to seduction.

Most guys don't have the chance to learn how to perfect going for a kiss because it happens so infrequently!

Even on a good night, most guys will typically find one girl they hit it off with at the bar where a kiss is probably even a possibility.

So normally, you'd have to face a lot of these rejections one by one to learn the best way to successfully go in for a kiss.

But luckily, I've already gone through all those failures for you (until I discovered this killer technique), and can present the best way to avoid failure and shortcut right to success.

Sound good?

The Kiss Technique makes it so that when you're speaking to a woman, you can intentionally give off subconscious triggers that will make her think about kissing you!

Pretty powerful stuff...

If You Use This Technique, Suddenly Making a Woman Want to Kiss You Will Be Something You Have Control Over

If you decide to "wing it" in the stage like most guys, however, you're going to run into problems...

First, you won't know how physically receptive she is to kissing you. A tried and true rule to go by is this:

Your hesitation = Her reservation

So the more you hesitate, the worse your chances get, because she starts to build up all sorts of red flags and reservations.

When you go to lean in for the kiss and you don't do it the right way at the right time, you'll come off as needy (like you don't have a lot of options with women) because if you did have a lot of options, you wouldn't be worrying about the kiss with this girl.

So how do we show that you are absolutely NOT needy (even if you kind of feel like you are) and provide a way so that you will not fear rejection because you will know for sure ahead of time that she is wanting to kiss you?

We use what's called The Kiss Technique.

This involves combining two psychological concepts into a perfect recipe for mastering the kiss.

The First Concept Is Called Triangular Gazing

This will happen while you have built rapport and are looking to move into seduction. It involves looking from one eye to another, then looking at her mouth.

When you start looking at her mouth, you will subconsciously start to think about kissing her, because this action is already anchored to the thought of kissing someone.

Even if you look at a woman you're not attracted to and look at her mouth, you can start to think about kissing her, and you will become MORE attracted to her.

The good news is...the same happens for women.

The even BETTER news is...you can lead her to subconsciously start to do this and feel more attracted. How?

By using the second half of the recipe...another psychological concept called Mirroring.

Whenever we are in conversation with someone, we will mirror the leader of the conversation in an attempt to build subconscious rapport with them.

When you perfectly combine triangular gazing and mirroring, you have a combination that will...

Make Her Subconsciously Think About Kissing You

After talking with her in rapport, start to look at her mouth. At first, only for 2 seconds, then look back to her eyes. Switch between her left and right eye, then back to her mouth for a few seconds longer.

Continue to go from left to right eye and back to her mouth for 2 seconds, 3 seconds, then 5 seconds.

Eventually, you want to be mostly looking at her mouth.

When she begins to look at your mouth as well, you know for sure that she's ready to kiss you.

Voila! The Kiss Technique takes all of the guess work out of "making a move".

You will now know with confidence when she wants to kiss you, and get to be the fully assertive but perceptive man that women find irresistibly sexy.

She will feel like you know exactly how to treat a woman and feel safe and confident moving on with you.

Now, if you want to take this technique to the next level and make it so that girls will be leaning in to you and basically begging you to kiss them, you only have to know one magical sentence.

Pick-Up Techniques That Women Secretly Hate

Do you think you are suave with women?

You might not be aware, but some of the moves that you put on the opposite sex might be causing them to internally roll their eyes while they smile politely at you. Here are a few of the pick-up techniques that men use frequently but women secretly hate.

Pick-up Lines

Some lines are widely known to cause women to roll their eyes. A few examples are: “Did it hurt when you fell from heaven?” and “Do your feet hurt? Because you've been running through my mind all day.”

Many women have heard all those heavily-recycled lines before and, for most, being approached with one seems insincere, which is usually a turn-off. Even lesser-known lines can give off the same calculated vibe, so be careful about using any of them.

Mirroring

This isn't a standard pick-up technique so much as it is a go-to strategy for some men to help create connections with women. Mirroring involves mimicking body language and voice patterns of another person, usually someone you don't know well, in order to build rapport quickly. This strategy has some merit, and it can work when executed very well, but it can feel artificial when done badly.

Men who attempt to win over a woman through unskilled mimicry could turn her off, at best, and perhaps even insult her. Not only that, but focusing on nonverbal actions could distract you from holding a conversation. For most men, a calm approach and friendly banter works much better than calculated mirroring movements.

Bragging

While it is true that many women find men who have achieved success to be attractive, women hate encountering potential dates who boast non-stop about their achievements, especially if it's within the first few minutes of meeting them. It also can seem suspicious.

Often, those who are quick to brag tend to spout a list of success stories that seem a little implausible — sure, it's possible to be an investment banker by day, boxing champion by night, and a pilot on the weekends, but it's highly unlikely. In these cases, a woman may nod and smile, but mentally she's rolling her eyes in disbelief.

Moving From Strangers to Dates Too Quickly

Some people believe that extra-assertiveness is the way to a woman's heart. Within five minutes of conversation, they're asking for a number, or swiftly suggesting that the woman accompany them somewhere else for an impromptu date. Even if the proposed location is public, it's still a pretty forward move. Many women will be left in slack-jawed confusion about why someone they barely know is moving so quickly, and will probably be trying to plan their escape.

Don't let it get to that point. There is a big difference between taking the lead and trying to completely dominate the situation. While many women are happy in the company of a confident man, few are pleased with one who seems determined to control them within minutes of meeting for the first time. Allow the conversation to unfold naturally and don't try to rush things — it could backfire.

When you're trying to put moves on the opposite sex, avoid these pick-up techniques. A woman may grin and bear your attempt to win her over using these strategies, but internally she'll be eager to get away. A calm, confidant, natural approach is almost always better than calculated pick-up techniques that many women have seen before.

Approaching Women

Approaching members of the opposite sex can be challenging to a lot of men. This article gives some advice on how to increase your confidence when interacting with women.

1. Deal With Your Fear.

Acknowledge that what you're about to do isn't mission impossible. You meet new women and talk to them every day, whether it is someone at work or even just the girl on the till in Tesco's.

The problem isn't what you're about to do, it's how you see it. Overcoming shyness is all about understanding that the problem lies within your head.

2. Make Sure You Look Good.

This one is pretty self explanatory. Whether you buy a new suit, get a haircut or indulge in some new aftershave, if you look good, you feel good. The better you look the more confident you will feel, and this will show through to whoever it is you are trying to approach.

Confidence is sexy so just this simple point could be the step towards getting the girl.

3. Imagine the Worst That Could Happen.

To nearly all men, this would be the woman yelling at them or making them look stupid in front of the rest of the room. Now take a minute and think about it logically, realize that this is extremely unlikely to happen unless you either approach them at a bad time, or if you approach them with a horrifically cheesy chat up line or something equally as bad. This only leaves the very rare, completely random bad reaction that could happen to any man.

Letting this kind of fear stop you from approaching a woman you like is just as stupid as never crossing the road again for fear you may get hit by a bus.

4. Have Something Interesting to Say.

Relaying your day to day life with details on how often you feed your cat or what you had for breakfast are not good conversation topics. Make sure you have always got something interesting to say in order to keep the conversation flowing.

5. Seek Hypnosis.

If the above doesn't work for you there are other routes to go down. Many people nowadays are turning to hypnotherapy. This practice helps to address what it is that's causing the low self confidence and tells you what needs be done in order to turn it around.

How to Bring Girls Home From Bars and Clubs

If you go to a popular bar or club on a Friday or Saturday night it's going to be packed full of 18-35 year old women. Most of them will be single, many will be good-looking, and they will be in all states of drunkenness.

Even better, a decent percentage of these girls will be open to going home with you if you know what you are doing!

So... that's what I'm going to teach you.

Here are 5 big things you can do to be more successful with bringing home women from bars and clubs...

1) Don't Put Out a Needy Vibe

If you want to get better at meeting women at bars/clubs it's important to enjoy going out, without worrying about trying to bring somebody home. Obviously that's a major objective of yours, or you wouldn't be reading this article. But, in order to reach this goal, you need to back off it for a minute and get your understanding straight.

So many guys focus all their energy on picking up women when they go out, that they forget to have a good time. They think that they NEED to put all this effort into picking up women, and this is pretty much the definition of being a desperate dude.

Look, every guy wants to sleep with attractive women. Every guy would like to be able to bring home ladies he meets at bars. But not all guys are NEEDY for it. Women can sense if you're needy for sex/female validation, and it skeeves them out.

The guys who attract lots of women aren't needy for them, because they already have them. They have options, so when they do go out they aren't starving for female attention. This is the mind-set you need to develop!

This lack of neediness is what can give you the upper hand with women, because when you aren't needy, you care about the interaction less than the girl does. You can say whatever you want, and not care what any woman thinks of you. This allows you to appear very confident, secure, and authentic.

So don't act needy, don't think of yourself as needy. Go out for purposes other than picking up women. These could include wanting to:

• Spend quality time with friends.
• Hear bands/djs/music you like.
• Have a few drinks and get a buzz going.
• Get dinner/happy hour/bar food you enjoy.
• Just get out of the house for a couple hours, and see a new environment.

Yes you will see hot women around you, but don't sweat them, just enjoy the moment. This will let them notice you and the non-needy vibe you are putting out. I'll explain how to meet them without sweating them in a sec.

2) Look Sharp

I cannot emphasize enough the importance of dressing well, and having your look together. In a bar/club environment, women will flirt with you if you are looking good... they will.

Guys who talk about, "women don't approach men in clubs", obviously aren't looking good when they go out. They might think they are, but their poor results speak for themselves.

You won't believe how much female attention you will get just by tweaking your look a little. This doesn't mean dressing up like some clown pick-up artist, wearing fedoras and goggles... And you don't need classical "good-looks" by any stretch of the imagination. You just gotta have a fresh style, be well groomed, and sort out any body-language issues you may have.

3) Go Out With Guys Who Are Good With Women

It's fine to go hangout with all kinds of people. I hang out with old people, young people, women, married guys, guys who suck with women, etc... All kinds of people, it's important to diversify.

However, when you are actively trying to pick-up women out at 21+ establishments it pays to go with a buddy or two who will help you in your quest.

Women almost always go out in groups or 2, 3 or 4. So you should go out with at least one friend if not 2 or 3. More than that and the dynamics get complicated.

You want these to be guys you like, and can have fun with. Talk to your buddies, have fun, make jokes, check out all the sexy women. Keep a positive vibe going. Then when you see some girls you like, approach them together and help each other out. Buddies can help you in a variety of ways...

• They make you look cool, because you have cool friends.
• They help you get a good vibe going and keep it going.
• They can talk to the other girls so they don't cock-block you.
• They give you somebody else to talk to. Instead of just talking back and forth with the girl, ignore her for a minute and just talk to your boy, let her watch you and see you interact with others.
• They can assist with bringing the girls back home.

A lot of times girls will be more open to leaving the bar/club if it's you, your boy, her and her girl, instead of just you and her. They feel safer, because it's not like you are just going home to hook-up right away. You are going home to party more, have more drinks as a group, all go in the hot-tub together or whatever.

If you don't know any guys who are good with women, don't despair. You can go out with other guys so long as they don't sabotage your efforts. They can help you just to a lesser degree.

You should also consider being more social in general so you can make friends with more guys who are good with women. Hangout with people you usually don't, guys from work, school, friends of friends, etc... Some people are better at making friends than others, but just like getter better with women learning to make friends is a learnable skill.

4) Don't Do "Cold Approaches", Or Use PUA Routines

So called "PUAS" (pick-up artists) recommend all sorts of special tactics for picking up girls at bars and clubs, and most of these methods are pure bull-crap developed out of despair. Don't believe the hype!

These methods are PROOF that their creators don't have a clue about women or how attraction works.

Sure some of these methods work... some of the time. But they are NOT necessary, they mostly just confuse guys, and cause way more harm than good. If you've been incorporating any of these PUA techniques into your "game", drop them ASAP. They're part of the problem.

Instead, say something original like...

• "Hi"
• "Hey... how are you doing?"
• "Do you mind if we join you?"
• "Where do I know you from?"

It's not about the specific words you use. Any woman who is being honest will back me up on this, It's about who you are, who she perceives you to be.

Also, don't just approach any and every woman that you wouldn't mind having a roll in the hay with. This goes back to #1 not putting out a needy vibe. I particularly recommend only approaching women that are giving you some type of "GO" sign.

This can range from, looking at you, looking at you repeatedly, looking at you and smiling, looking and smiling repeatedly, brushing against you, or talking to you. If a woman does any of these things to you when you are out at a bar/club, go for it. Walking up to women who haven't noticed you yet and then trying to hook them into an interaction with you is just not the most productive way to go about things.

Again, if you go out and no women look at you, smile at you or talk to you, it's time to look at the other things that you are doing... Are you looking sharp? Are you with guys who are good with women? Are you putting out a needy vibe?

5) Go To Places That Cater To Your Demographic

There are all different types of bars and clubs. They each have their own different kinds of vibes and different kinds of women that like to hang-out there. You are going to meet different girls at loud "spring break" types of clubs than at classy lounges, neighborhood pubs, or the bar at Chili's.

Now I like all types of women... but there are some things I am definitely not looking for. So this means I'm not going to be looking at the divorcee bars, or rowdy biker type watering holes. I might go to those places for fun, and I could possibly find someone I'd like there, but those places don't typically cater to the demographic I'm interested in.

It also helps to be aware of what type of women are going to be feeling you. If you are an older guy in a fancy suit they might not be digging your style at the young scenester bar. The women there are more interested in the metro sexual guys with beards and scarves.

...So to recap. There are lots of attractive women at bars that want to hook up with you. Just make sure you:

• Don't act needy. Relax, and focus on having fun with your friends.
• Look sharp.
• Go with guys who are good with women.
• Wait until women show interest, then keep your approach simple and real.
• Go to bars that cater to women in you demographic.

And you should do just fine.

Also... and this is EXTREMELY IMPORTANT: Only get a woman's number in a bar as a last resort, because she has to go with her friends or whatever. Girls from bars/clubs are much more likely to flake on you than girls you meet under other circumstances.

If you meet a girl you like at a bar try to keep the interaction going. If you have a buddy and you are talking to a couple girls, make sure to invite them to come over and keep the party going at your place. This is the exact dynamic most girls who go out to the bar are looking for!

What Makes an Average Looking Guy Instantly Become HOT?

If you talk to any number of super hot girls and approach them, you will start to see one thing over and over — she is going to test you.

If you fail these tests, you will not not hook up with her. Period. You will join the piles of men she's had to reject because they weren't confident enough.

The GOOD news is, that there is a way to pass these tests nearly 100% of the time.

Most really hot girls' tests are enough to make men run away with their tails between their legs. If you know the technique to passing, then you are going to be in the VERY small percentage of guys who make it through her defenses and are actually a sexual candidate.

If you don't know this one secret technique, you will fail these tests and never gain entrance into the world of attracting and sleeping with truly beautiful women.

These tests can be one of two types: compliance tests or congruence tests. Today, we are talking about compliance tests. First, let me explain a bit more about these tests and WHY hot women NEED them.

A compliance test is an act or a statement that checks to see if you are going to do whatever she wants. If you comply, she will have gained control over the conversation, the interaction, and you. It seems like they want you to fail these tests so they have the power, right?

Fortunately, that is not the case. When women give compliance tests, they really do want you to pass them. It is their way of filtering out a truly confident, attractive guy from the rest. It may sound strange, but beautiful women honestly can't just look at a guy and say "he's good looking, therefore he's attractive." They need much more because they are approached by so many different types of guys. A really attractive girl will get hit on 10-15 times A DAY.

That's 3,650 times a year (conservatively) that an attractive woman is hit on. She will start to see patterns in the ways guys behave if they are actually confident or not, and that has nothing to do with looks.

The compliance test is really a test to see whether or not they're going to be able to get away with whatever they want. Why do they want to test this? Well, they want to find out whether or not you're used to beautiful women hitting on you or whether or not you're used to being with beautiful women.

This is a very crucial concept. If you are used to being with beautiful women, you will not bend over backwards for a beautiful woman just because she wants something. Instead, you will respond in a way that sort of puts the compliance back on her.

Beautiful women are guaranteed to give you compliance tests and if you fail the compliance tests, you are guaranteed not to attract them. So it's very crucial that you learn this.

How do you recognize compliance tests? Basically, look for any demand that she gives you within a short time of meeting that seems small, but gets you to follow.

One very classic compliance test is "buy me a drink."

Women go for throat here when you're in the bar because they don't have a whole lot of time to figure out who is attracted and who is confident and who's not. How you respond to "buy me a drink" is very crucial when you're in a bar.

There are other small things like "why don't you wait here while I go to the bathroom." or "give me a kiss on the cheek" or even "will you take a picture for us?"

Anything that seems kind of harmless is typically a compliance test especially if it's from a really beautiful woman and you don't want to deny the compliance test, what you want to do is take control over it and add your own terms.

For example, if someone says, "Take our pictures." Then you will say, "okay, I will but I want you to take one picture for you and one picture of how I ask you to take it." So if they refused to do this, and you go, "Alright, well find some other guy."

You will actually find some other guy to take the camera and say, "Hey man, can you take their picture?" And you just have them take your picture.

But usually they will say okay fine, you take the picture and you go "okay, now I want you to give me a sexy look." Then take their picture. "Okay now, make a silly face", take a picture. And continue to make them do different pictures as long as you can think of them.

Essentially what you're doing now is you are getting compliance from them. This is crucial. This is called flipping the script and you will hear a lot about this. Flipping the script is one of the most powerful things that you can do to a woman that you don't know and it will create a massive amount of intrigue and a massive amount of attraction that will be built.

So from now on, know and recognize when a woman is giving you a compliance test. Don't stop and don't reject the compliance test. Add your own terms.

When you start doing this, you are going to see the truly beautiful women in the bar start to treat you in a completely different way. You can actually watch other guys approach, get shot down and see it ruin their nights. But you can easily navigate the sea of compliance tests and come out looking like a rock star, making her more and more attracted to you since you're the kind of guy who won't just do exactly what she wants.

This is one of the "Sexual Triggers" that drive beautiful women wild. The rest of them are revealed in this presentation:

How to Make Women Approach You... in 5 Easy Steps

As a single guy, you're probably used to putting pressure on yourself to get out there and meet women. I mean how else are you gonna get yourself a new girlfriend or casual sex partner, right?

Problem is, if you're like most guys, then the idea of walking up to a beautiful stranger and trying to kick some game is downright SCARY!

Wouldn't it be awesome if you could skip all that and get attractive women to approach YOU on a regular basis?

Well, the fact is, if you know what you're doing you can get tons of girls to approach you: out at bars, at the grocery store, in line a Starbucks, ANYWHERE. And, you don't need to look like Brad Pitt either...

Here's the formula in 5 easy steps:

1) Look the Part

Like I said, you don't need to be "good-looking" for this to work... but you do need to get your style on point.

Women approach men that they want to get with, and because they haven't talked to you yet this is based on what they observe about you, mostly through their eyes.

So get a cool haircut, stylish clothes that fit, and groom properly.

2) Master Your Body Language

Not to brag, but I have women approaching me all the time. And I credit this mainly to the body language I display.

If a woman spots you out of the corner of her eye, she's not going to see that big zit on your nose or your cool shoes, she's going to notice the way you move.

While there are a lot of things you can do to improve your body language always remember the following:

• let your body relax
• keep your head up
• bring your shoulders back (but not too far
• and roll your shoulders a little when you walk

(It's call swagger -- chicks dig it)

3) Make Eye Contact

As a guy, you already know it's far more intimidating to approach a woman if you haven't established eye contact with her beforehand. However, if she's giving you a come hither look, you'll feel like a jerk not approaching her.

It's the same for women. If you make eye contact with them and give them a smile, they'll feel more comfortable about approaching you.

Never be afraid to look girls in the eye. The more you practice it, the better you'll get at it.

Girls approach me all the time because my eye contact whipped them into a frenzy.

4) Have Fun When You Go Out

Women want to be with fun guys who have positive masculine attitudes. So, when you're out and about, try to enjoy yourself.

Don't be cranky, don't scowl, and don't mope. Instead, enjoy your life. Be present, pet dogs, smell flowers, and get interested in your surrounds.

It's particularly important to take an active role and enjoy the interactions you have with people other than your "target" females. Make jokes with the cashier, help an old lady with her suitcase, etc.

Let women see you as the captain of your own ship, bravely navigating the waters of life.

5) Use Online Dating

When you learn how to fully utilize dating sites, and have hordes of women pursuing you online, you will undergo a major shift in the way you think about women and dating.

You'll realize that you never, ever need to chase women and this will effect the "vibe" you send women as you go about your day. This lack of neediness is extremely attractive to women as it is a very rare and desirable trait for a man to have.